There’s a lot of etiquettes involved with weddings and things can get quite complicated. Everyone has their own ideas about who should get invited for what and where. Even the hen party can suffer from etiquette issues. So who should you invite to your hen party?
The ‘mothers’ question
One of the first considerations for brides or their chief bridesmaid when arranging the hen party is the mothers. Mother of the bride, mother of the groom, step mums, dad’s partners, all the different options – do you invite them or not?
The answer to this question is twofold – what are they like and what do you plan to do? Are the mothers quite traditional and don’t drink? In that case, a fun weekend to Ibiza might not be their scene. Or are they real party animals who are first into the bar on a holiday? Then no problem.
The mother in law question can also need a little additional consideration. For instance, if you plan to have Buff Butlers running your hen party evening, is the mother in law going to be a bit put out by this? Or will she be waiting at the door to greet the guys?
Thinking about their personalities, their tastes and their feelings are important. If you want a funky hen party but they are more traditional, why not do two? Go to Ibiza with the girls then have a meal at a nice restaurant with the older generation. Everyone is happy that way.
The financial question
Sometimes you have to think a little outside the box when it comes to hen parties and who to ask. Sure, you want your friends there and to have a brilliant time but can your friend who just had a baby afford a weekend in Ibiza? And would she want to leave the little one?
What you do and the financial considerations around it is something to think about. While going abroad or to somewhere like London is a brilliant idea for a hen party, you don’t have to travel far. If it is more important to have all your friends around, then go for somewhere nearer to home. lots of cities scattered around the country are hotspots for hen parties so check out guides and choose one that is nearer home.
People not coming to the wedding
Sometimes there are people you want at the hen party but who aren’t invited to the wedding. Small weddings often leave people out and most people will be understanding. You can also use the hen party as a way to celebrate with them.
But if you think they are going to spoil the evening in a huff about not coming to the wedding, then drop them from the hen party life too. No negativity allowed!
Surprise or not?
One last consideration for the chief bridesmaid if you are arranging the hen party – should it be a surprise or not? With the guest list, if you know the bride well enough to make the invites without consulting her and not miss anyone, then that’s great. But otherwise, you might want to chat about the guest list, even if you hold back on what you are doing for the event.